Thomas J Leonard says in his thirteenth principle: Get your personal needs met once and for all.

A great Hindu philosopher saint, Ramana Maharishi, said: This universe can meets the needs of billions, but cannot satisfy the wants of even one.

When does a need turn into a want?

Abraham Maslow presented his hierarchy of needs in 1943. He referred to needs and not wants, since he was talking about the essential requirements of one’s life, not idle desires.  Maslow postulated that we have five need layers and upon fulfillment of one layer we move to the next. No one has disputed this theory.

While i have no disagreement with Maslow on the five layers, which in my opinion may be actually seven, i dispute his assumption that we move from one to another by fulfilling each layer.

My own observation shows two key variances. One that even as we move up the layer ladder, we do retain unfulfilled needs from the previous layer. No one i know has fully overcome his or her physiological or survival needs or the safety or security needs,  even as move up to level three and four.

Insecurity of hunger and other essential survival needs often drive us to higher needs as a better way of fulfillment of the lower needs. If this were not the case,  a very wealthy man would no longer need wealth. He would give it all away.

The second variance i find is that very few of us climb this ladder. Almost every one i know of is already knocking on level four as an adult. Very few of us need to struggle through layers of survival, safety and relationship needs, having been taken care of by caregivers. Once we are on our own, we are already engaged in the process of building name , fame and such other esteem needs.

Our personal needs have been met once and for all for most of us! The problem is that we are not aware of this and still want!

The hallmark of a coach is the self-awareness that we indeed have arrived at the door step of self-actualization. Without this realization, a coach cannot be effective.