i acknowledge this cartoon from the Net.

In his seventeenth principle Thomas J Leonard says: Endorse your worst weaknesses.

How do stop other people from bullying you?

The starting point is the understanding that people are bullying you. If you are not even aware and people do, it doesn’t matter anyway. But, if you do understand and resent that, you have two options. Stand up and fight. Not all of us have the strength and guts. The other is to convert that weakness of being a victim into a strength.


Sun Tzu, the celebrated Chinese General says in his Art of War that retreating from a battle is not a sign of weakness, but a smart thing to do by a strong army when things are not going its way, for whatever reason. Sun Tzu rarely advocates brute strength as the means to vanquish an enemy. He advises warriors to act both on the strength they have  and the weaknesses they suffer from.

The Japanese, Korean and Chinese martial arts all work on not exploiting one own strengths but some one else’s weaknesses. They do this with people who do not understand their weaknesses and accept them as points on which not to launch on an offensive.

On the face of it, a woman in India is less emancipated than her counterpart in the US. Yet, India had a very powerful woman Prime Minister, a woman President and several Chief Ministers of States have been women. How many in the US?

The average woman is far more powerful in her milieu in India than in the Western world. She exploits her weaknesses as her strengths.

Feminism is still relatively unheard of in India. Rarely do women stand up and fight for their rights, let alone burn their bras. They don’t, because by deferring to social mores, and by keeping a low profile, they rule the household and the community.

Ask any average male in India s to who his strongest influence has been?  Without doubt the majority would point to their mothers or wives.

Women make excellent coaches, not because they are strong or weak, but because they have a far greater awareness and acceptance of who they are.