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In the 105th dharana  and 131 verse of Vigyana Bhairava Tantra, Shiva says:

Every time when saying I or Mine

Thank only of That 

Let supported mind realize Shiva 


As in earlier verses, here too Shiva talks about duality and in a different format and landscape of ahankara or ego.

Hindu psychology considers mind to be made of four elements: buddhi, the high level intelligence; chitti, memory base; manas, sensory base; and ahankara, ego base. It is remarkable that thee concepts were known thousands of years ahead of any other school of psychology in the world. Another cross section of mind segmented it into four states of awareness: gross sensory awareness; sub conscious awareness; deep unconscious awareness; and the highest state simply termed as the Fourth State of awareness. Compared to this wisdom dating 5000 years, the first mention of Western Psychology was by Freud, hardly a little over hundred years ago.

Ego, ahankara in a sense drives all the other three minds of senses, memory and intelligence. At the first level of mind input, senses provide impressions of what we see of the external world. We interpret these impressions through the lens of our ego and store the judgmental impressions in chitti, memory. What is stored in memory is reviewed by the higher intelligence buddhi, which too for the most part is influenced by ego conditioning to take decisions to act.

The Brihadharanyaka Upanishad says: You are what your deep, driving desire is. As your desire is, so is your will. As your will is, so is your deed. As your deed is, so is your destiny.

The deep driving desire arises from ego, from its state of rajas conditioning. Our primary drivers from age immemorial have been desire and fear, desire born out of rajas, and fear born out of tamas. In satva, the highest state of ego, neither fear nor desire exists being in balance and mind disengaged. Shiva advises us to move to the stave state of mindset, where there is no duality, neither pain nor pleasure, fear nor greed, obsession for success nor loathing for failure.

Ego is driven by the self, with feelings of I and mine, what is in it for me and what can I get. Loss of ego results in looking at others instead of oneself. What can I do for others?

In the 16 chapter of Gita, in Daiva Asura Sampadya Vibhaga Yoga, Attributes of the Divine and the Demon, essence of Krishna’s teaching is: when one looks at oneself, full of I and mine feelings, the person is demonic; when one looks at others above oneself with feelings of you and yours, the person is divine. Krishna postulates his concept of vasudeva kutumbaha, world is one family on this explanation. Today’s concepts of emotional intelligence based on self and social awareness as well as Servant Leadership arise from this concept as well.

Once we let go feelings of I, Me and Mine, the entire support structure for ego collapses. Instead of the binary polarity of I and You, we reach the higher third truth of That, the unalterable permanent reality of oneness. That is where Shiva resides.